From the Pastor - First Sunday of Advent

December 1, 2023

Today we begin the beautiful and holy season of Advent. With all that we have going on this time of year, it’s no wonder Advent does not always seem to get the attention it deserves. But if we will commit to living this season well, we will experience a deeper conversion to Christ and find real transformation in our lives as Christian stewards.


Why? Advent calls us not only to look back in grateful contemplation of Christ’s first coming, but it also calls us to look forward in preparation for His Second Coming. Advent is a time to reset and regroup, to repent over any misplaced priorities, to turn our minds and hearts back to God while we still have time. We do so not out of fear or guilt, but rather, out of gratitude for Love Incarnate lying in a manger bed.


Whatever we feel God calling us to do this Advent — committing to a daily Gospel reflection, visiting a lonely neighbor, or donating money to those in dire need — there is no time to waste.


Jesus makes this clear in our Gospel passage from Matthew. He tells the parable of a man going off on a journey. Before he leaves, he “places his servants in charge, each with his own work.” We, of course, are the servants in this parable, each with a mission to accomplish in building the Kingdom of God. Jesus warns us over and over in this passage to remain vigilant to the work He has given us to do because we do not know when we will be called to give an account for it.


Our lives are a gift. This holy season is a gift. Let us recommit to living the stewardship way of life. Love came down to us as a Baby. And He is coming again. Be watchful! © Catholic Stewardship Consultants, 2023

 

Pastoral Pondering

I have been doing Catechism in a Year with Father Mike Schmitz and, at present, we’ve been going through the 10 commandments (Life in Christ). Coincidentally (or Providentially), I have also recently had several questions regarding divorce, marriage, and pre-marriage issues. Hence, I thought it would be a good time to address a couple of them.


First, let’s look at pre-marital cohabitation. The Catechism deals with this under two headings, fornication (#2353) and trial marriage (#2391). Fornication is described as carnal union between an unmarried man and an unmarried woman. It is gravely contrary to the dignity of persons and of human sexuality which is naturally ordered to the good of spouses and the generation and education of children. Moreover, it is a grave scandal when there is corruption of the young. Trial marriage would be “institutionalizing” fornication in a way. It is treating a person as a thing. I will test drive a new car. I should not “test drive” a future spouse!


Sadly, pre-marital cohabitation and fornication have almost become (if not actually) simply accepted as part of the normal course of things. We encounter a high percentage of those seeking marriage to already be living together. Usually, this does not arise from any type of malice but rather an ignorance of basic moral teaching. It is, after all, the “Tik Tok” generation.


Those preparing couples must spend time explaining the basics of why such behavior is wrong and, in the long run, detrimental to the health and well-being of marriage. Marriage requires both remote and proximate preparation. Beginning with children early and teaching about virtues and the beauty of God’s plans for marriage and family can start at the early ages. As children get older, the preparation continues.


When adult children make the decision to cohabit, parents can do a great deal in helping with these situations by standing up to illicit behavior. If the couple still has some dependency on the parents, this may require not continuing such support and certainly not funding the wedding if they are going to start off on the wrong foot, so to speak. Stating opposition but continuing to support in some way sends a confusing message.


We must love the sinner but hate the sin. The often-heard “I don’t want to alienate them or hurt their feelings” doesn’t go very far when we are dealing with sinful behavior. We have to love them enough to let them know that their behavior is putting their souls in danger. Far better to cause discomfort on this side of eternity than allowing shock when they reach the other side. To some degree the same principles apply when dealing with children choosing to marry outside the Church. Parents can do a great deal to address these issues when children are young enough to be formed and understand the consequences of contravening the laws of God. And all can be done in a way that presents God’s loving plan for marriage and family. Father Mike does this well in Catechism in a Year.



Finally, when we encounter couples in these situations, we do our best to form them and help them understand the importance of living chastely in preparing for marriage. Cohabitation before marriage is noted as a contributing factor to future divorce and marital instability. It is important that perspective spouses understand this and do whatever is necessary to place their future marriage on the best foundation possible. The world, the flesh and the devil are always trying to destroy. We need to do our part to push back and offer the beautiful truth of chaste, marital love.


From the Pastor

From the Pastor - Baptism of the Lord

By John Putnam • January 9, 2026
Today marks the close of the Christmas season, but before we return to Ordinary Time, we have one more great feast to celebrate — The Baptism of the Lord. Today’s feast is a perfect opportunity to consider the privileges and responsibilities we all share as Christian stewards by virtue of our own Baptism. At the moment of our Baptism, we became adopted sons and daughters of God, members of his holy, Catholic Church. Though we may not have realized it, the moment of our Baptism is also the moment we become Christian stewards, disciples of Jesus Christ, tasked with the work of following in His footsteps day by day and sharing the Gospel message with all those around us. In our second reading from the Acts of the Apostles, St. Peter gives us a glimpse of the person of Jesus we should imitate. “He went about doing good and healing all those oppressed by the devil, for God was with him.” We must live our lives like Jesus, seeking to do good to everyone we encounter; not just those in our inner circle of family and friends, but everyone in our community since the Father loves us all and Jesus sought out everyone with His saving message. In the Gospel passage from Matthew, we see yet another aspect of Jesus in action, this time as he humbly stands before John to be baptized by him. What humility and what willingness to unite Himself to us our Lord demonstrates by this act. We can do no less as we live out our daily lives as his disciples. And when we do strive with all our might to live out our Baptismal call to Christian stewardship, we will experience the deep honor of knowing that we, too, are God’s “beloved” sons and daughters “with whom He is well-pleased.” © Catholic Stewardship Consultants, 2025 Pastoral Pondering As many of you know, on December 17 Bishop Martin issued a pastoral letter concerning the reception of Holy Communion. In that letter, he directed that non-fixed altar rails and kneelers be removed no later than January 16. I want to acknowledge, very simply and honestly, that this has been difficult for many in our parish. I feel that weight as well. I love St. Mark, and I am grateful for the reverence and devotion so many of you show toward the Holy Eucharist. I do not take lightly the concerns, questions, or disappointment this has raised. I am also aware that some of the faithful have made use of the appropriate channels within the Church to petition for clarification or reconsideration, and those processes may continue. At the same time, as your pastor, I am entrusted with leading this parish in fidelity to the Church and her discipline in those matters that do not contradict Catholic law. While there are sincere and thoughtful discussions about posture for receiving Holy Communion, the current liturgical discipline in the United States indicates that Communion is ordinarily received standing, whether on the tongue or in the hand. It is important to state clearly that the right of an individual communicant to kneel remains fully intact, and no one may ever be denied Holy Communion for choosing to do so. Therefore, unless a suspensive decision is issued by the Bishop or by the Dicastery for Divine Worship, we will comply with the directive and remove the kneelers from around the sanctuary. To assist with the reverent and timely distribution of Holy Communion, we will also increase the number of Communion stations. I know this change will be challenging for some. It is not something I approach lightly. My hope is that we can carry this moment together, offering whatever frustration or sorrow we may feel as a personal sacrifice, united to Christ present in the Eucharist. Crosses come in many forms, and how we bear them matters greatly. Let us remain united in prayer and charity, so that anger, bitterness, or division never take root at St. Mark. The weight of the Bishop’s office is a heavy one. I pray for Bishop Martin daily, and I ask that you do the same. Bishop’s office is a heavy one. I pray for him everyday, and I hope that you will as well.  On a happier note, as we come to the end of the Christmas season, I want to thank everyone who dropped off Christmas greetings and goodies. Your kindness is very much appreciated.

From the Pastor - Epiphany

By John Putnam • January 2, 2026
Today we celebrate the Epiphany — the manifestation of Christ to the world. The stewardship way of life is nothing other than a grateful response to God’s countless manifestations in our lives, and a commitment to make His love manifest to others through the sharing of our gifts. St. Paul reminds us in Ephesians that the grace given to him was “for your benefit.” Every gift we have received is meant to benefit others and give glory to God. The Magi show us how to live this out: Worship is their highest priority.They travel far, ask openly, and refuse to let anything stop them from honoring the newborn King. Is Sunday Mass the non-negotiable center of our week? 2. They are watchful. “We saw his star at its rising.” Good stewards stay alert to God’s presence and gifts in daily life. 3. They persevere through difficulty. Herod deceives, dangers threaten, yet God guides and protects them. Our stewardship journey will have twists, but God is faithful. 4. They are overjoyed True stewards radiate the deep, lasting joy that only comes from encountering Christ. 5. They prostrate and open their treasures. Overwhelmed with awe, they give totally of themselves and their gifts — the perfect act of worship. This year, let us rejoice in every manifestation of God in our lives, stay watchful for His star, and open our own treasures — our time, talent, and treasure — in generous gratitude to our King.  Come, let us adore Him — and then go and make Him known.