From the Pastor - Feast of the Holy Family

December 29, 2023

Today, we celebrate the Holy Family of Jesus, Mary and Joseph. Just as the Holy Family is holy, we are also called to be holy. This holiness is achievable by living as disciples of Christ.


St. Paul calls us to put on “heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience… as the Lord has forgiven you, so must you also do.” Let us “give thanks to God the Father” by being good stewards of His love and mercy to all our family members.

Today's Gospel says a lot about trust and surrender to our Lord. When Simeon and Anna prophesized about what was to come, Jesus' parents were “amazed at what was said about him.” We can imagine that two parents would be taken back by these words! Yet, the Holy Family surrendered their lives to God and had unwavering faith and trust in His plan.


God’s plan will fulfill our hearts more than we could have ever imagined. Like the Holy Family, we just need to trust, surrender and be attentive to God’s voice. © Catholic Stewardship Consultants, 2023

 

Pastoral Pondering

We have been discussing those things that damage, attack, or weaken marriage.


The Church defines marriage as a covenant relationship that is to be a partnership of the whole of life (see CCC, 1601). My academic work in canon law focused on the introduction of this one phrase in canon 1057, §2 of the 1983 Code of Canon Law. And while that might seem to be a rather small thing in the overall scheme of things, it actually gives rise to the overall Catholic understanding of marriage. The institution of marriage has particular properties and ends that make up the substance of marriage itself. These properties are unity, indissolubility and fecundity. These three support the ends of marriage, the good of the spouses and the procreation & education of children. Hence, permanence, fidelity and openness to life are the three legs of the tripod that support marriage and place it on a firm foundation.


Since we’ve already addressed infidelity (adultery) and permanence (divorce), our liturgical feast provides a good opportunity to discuss the openness to children and its importance to marriage.


Paragraph 2366 of the Catechism says this:

Fecundity is a gift, an end of marriage, for conjugal love naturally tends to be fruitful. A child does not come from outside as something added on to the mutual love of the spouses, but springs from the very heart of that mutual giving, as its fruit and fulfillment. So the Church, which "is on the side of life" teaches that "each and every marriage act must remain open 'per se' to the transmission of life." This particular doctrine, expounded on numerous occasions by the Magisterium, is based on the inseparable connection, established by God, which man on his own initiative may not break, between the unitive significance and the procreative significance which are both inherent to the marriage act."


Concerning the regulation of births, Paragraph 2370 says this:

Periodic continence, that is, the methods of birth regulation based on self-observation and the use of infertile periods, is in conformity with the objective criteria of morality. These methods respect the bodies of the spouses, encourage tenderness between them, and favor the education of an authentic freedom. In contrast, "every action which, whether in anticipation of the conjugal act, or in its accomplishment, or in the development of its natural consequences, proposes, whether as an end or as a means, to render procreation impossible" is intrinsically evil:


Thus, the innate language that expresses the total reciprocal self-giving of husband and wife is overlaid, through contraception, by an objectively contradictory language, namely, that of not giving oneself totally to the other. This leads not only to a positive refusal to be open to life but also to a falsification of the inner truth of conjugal love, which is called upon to give itself in personal totality.... the difference, both anthropological and moral, between contraception and recourse to the rhythm of the cycle . . . involves in the final analysis two irreconcilable concepts of the human person and of human sexuality.


Hence, contraception violates the very essence of marriage because it says, “I give you myself, BUT not this part.”


It is also helpful to remember how prophetic Pope St. Paul VI was when he warned in Humanae vitae:

Responsible men can become more deeply convinced of the truth of the doctrine laid down by the Church on this issue if they reflect on the consequences of methods and plans for artificial birth control. Let them first consider how easily this course of action could open wide the way for marital infidelity and a general lowering of moral standards. Not much experience is needed to be fully aware of human weakness and to understand that human beings—and especially the young, who are so exposed to temptation—need incentives to keep the moral law, and it is an evil thing to make it easy for them to break that law. Another effect that gives cause for alarm is that a man who grows accustomed to the use of contraceptive methods may forget the reverence due to a woman, and, disregarding her physical and emotional equilibrium, reduce her to being a mere instrument for the satisfaction of his own desires, no longer considering her as his partner whom he should surround with care and affection.


Finally, careful consideration should be given to the danger of this power passing into the hands of those public authorities who care little for the precepts of the moral law. Who will blame a government which in its attempt to resolve the problems affecting an entire country resort to the same measures as are regarded as lawful by married people in the solution of a particular family difficulty? Who will prevent public authorities from favoring those contraceptive methods which they consider more effective? Should they regard this as necessary, they may even impose their use on everyone. It could well happen, therefore, that when people, either individually or in family or social life, experience the inherent difficulties of the divine law and are determined to avoid them, they may give into the hands of public authorities the power to intervene in the most personal and intimate responsibility of husband and wife.


A careful study of the historical record shows clearly how the widespread acceptance of contraception has led to marital infidelity, the bad fruit of the sexual revolution (seeing sexual intimacy as more of a recreational activity than its intended use) including abortion, infidelity, promiscuity, and the like. By extension, we can also see that once the marital act is separated from marriage, marriage loses a sense of what it is, opening the doorway to redefining marriage in any way one wants.


The Dicastery for the Doctrine of the Faith’s recent decision to allow for the blessing of same sex couples who have attempted marriage, while perhaps being well-intentioned, adds to a greater level of confusion about the inherent nature of marriage and its importance to the life of the Church. The document clear that any blessing must be outside of an official liturgical action or ritual, but, human nature being what it is, and priests being fallible as we are, this will be abused and confused leading to even a greater diminishment of the understanding of marriage in our secularized culture.


From the Pastor

By John Putnam October 24, 2025
In last week’s readings, we were encouraged to remain persistent and constant in our prayer life. Today, we focus on the proper attitude of a steward at prayer. In the Gospel passage from Luke, Jesus illustrates the humble attitude we must have as we approach God in prayer through a parable of two praying men. One is a Pharisee, a man with respected status, theological training, and all the right credentials. He marches right up to the front of the temple to speak a prayer “to himself,” thanking God for making him just a little bit superior to everyone else! The other man is a tax collector, known by those of his day to be a cheater and a sell-out to his fellow Jews. In contrast to the Pharisee, he stands near the back and cries out to God in a simple and honest way: “Be merciful to me a sinner.” Jesus tells us that it is the tax collector and not the Pharisee who leaves the temple justified. Why? The Pharisee was full of self as he approached God. He felt no real need for God as he rattled off his resume of good works and spiritual practices. He was simply going through the motions of prayer. His lack of humility prevented him from entering into a real dialogue with the Father. He was not transformed by his time of prayer because he was so full of himself that He left God no space to enter in. The tax collector, by contrast, emptied himself as he approached God. He recognized who he truly was (a sinner) and asked simply for mercy, leaving all the rest up to God. This is the kind of attitude that God can work with! This is how a good steward prays — with trust, with complete openness to God’s will, with a listening mind and heart, ready to serve as God leads. © Catholic Stewardship Consultants, 2025 Pastoral Pondering November is the month which begins with All Saints and All Souls. It is a good time to reflect on the importance of our connection with those who have gone before us “marked with the sign of faith.” We have a special obligation (spiritual work of mercy) to pray for the dead, especially remember the souls in purgatory. Here is an outline of Catholic teaching to help us make better use of and have a better understanding of this important Catholic obligation. Importance of Praying for the Dead in Catholic Theology In Catholic theology, praying for the dead holds profound significance as an act of communion of saints, mercy, and * * solidarity ** within the Church. It is rooted in Scripture, Tradition, and the Church's magisterium, affirming that the living can aid the deceased in their journey toward full union with God. Below, I'll outline the key theological foundations, biblical and historical support, and practical implications. 1. Theological Foundation: The Communion of Saints · The Catholic Church teaches that the faithful—whether on earth (Church Militant), in Purgatory (Church Suffering), or in heaven (Church Triumphant)—form **one mystical Body of Christ** (Catechism of the Catholic Church [CCC] 946–962). · Death does not sever this bond. Prayers from the living can remit the **temporal effects of sin** for souls in Purgatory, a state of purification after death for those destined for heaven but not yet fully sanctified (CCC 1030–1032). · Why it matters : This practice underscores human interdependence in salvation. Just as saints intercede for us, we intercede for the dead, fostering charity and hope in the resurrection. 2. Biblical Basis Catholic theology draws directly from Scripture, emphasizing prayer for the dead as an ancient practice: Scripture Reference | Key Passage | Theological Insight 2 Maccabees 12:38–46 | Judas Maccabeus offers sacrifices and prayers "for the dead, that they might be delivered from their sin." | Explicit endorsement of prayers and offerings for the deceased to atone for sins; foundational for Purgatory doctrine (accepted in Catholic canon). 1 Corinthians 15:29 | "Otherwise, what will people accomplish by having themselves baptized for the dead?" | Implies a custom of rites benefiting the dead, supporting intercessory prayer. 2 Timothy 1:16–18 | Paul prays for mercy on Onesiphorus, who has died. | Shows apostolic practice of praying for the deceased by name. These texts affirm that such prayers are **pleasing to God** and effective, countering Protestant objections by highlighting pre-Christian Jewish roots (e.g., Maccabees) and New Testament continuity. 3. Historical and Doctrinal Development · Early Church : Inscriptions in Roman catacombs (2nd–3rd centuries) request prayers for the dead. St. Augustine (Confessions, Book IX) recounts his mother Monica's prayers for his father. Tertullian (c. 200 AD) describes annual Masses for the deceased. · Councils : The Second Council of Lyons (1274) and the Council of Trent (1563) dogmatically affirmed Purgatory and suffrages (prayers, Masses) for the dead as meritorious. · Modern Teaching : Pope Benedict XVI's Spe Salvi (2007) explains Purgatory as "God's mercy transforming us," where our prayers "help complete what is lacking" (cf. Colossians 1:24). Pope Francis echoes this in Misericordiae Vultus (2015), calling it an act of divine mercy . 4. Spiritual Benefits and Practices Aspect | Importance | Common Practices For the Dead | Accelerates purification; applies merits of Christ's sacrifice through the Church's treasury (CCC 1477). | Offering Masses, Rosary for the deceased, indulgences (e.g., All Souls' Day). For the Living | Purifies our own sins via charity; gains plenary indulgences (e.g., visiting cemeteries Oct. 1–8). | November's Month of the Holy Souls; Eternal Rest prayer ("May they rest in peace"). Communal Impact | Strengthens parish unity; reminds us of judgment and heaven's reality.| All Souls' Day (Nov. 2) Masses; Book of the Dead in parishes. Key Prayer Example : Eternal Rest – "Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them. May they rest in peace. Amen." Recited after Masses or privately. 5. Addressing Common Objections · “Purgatory isn't biblical" : While the term "Purgatory" is post-biblical, its reality is inferred from 2 Maccabees, 1 Corinthians 3:13–15 ("fire will test... works"), and Matthew 12:32 (forgiveness "in the age to come"). · “Why pray if salvation is by faith alone?": Protestants reject it, but Catholics affirm faith *works through love* (Galatians 5:6); prayers apply Christ's merits, not "earn" salvation. · Evidence of Efficacy : Miracles (e.g., St. Gregory the Great's Mass freeing a soul) and near-death experiences reported in Catholic lore reinforce its reality. In summary, praying for the dead is essential to Catholic soteriology (theology of salvation), embodying hope in God's mercy and the interconnectedness of salvation history. It transforms grief into active love , urging Catholics to "remember their mercy" (Sirach 7:33). For deeper study, consult the *Catechism* (CCC 958, 1030–1032) or Vatican documents like Indulgentiarum Doctrina (1967).
By John Putnam October 17, 2025
The four pillars of parish stewardship are hospitality, prayer, formation, and service. Today’s readings show us the immense value of prayer and the privileged place it must have in our individual lives and in our parish community Our Lord Himself calls us to prayer — and persistence in prayer — in the Gospel passage from Luke. Jesus tells the parable of the nagging widow who finally wears down the judge with her unrelenting persistence in her pursuit of a just ruling from him on her behalf. Jesus goes to great lengths to describe this judge, saying he “neither feared God nor respected any human.” Yet even this corrupt judge responds with a just judgment because of the widow’s persistence. Jesus uses this outlandish example to draw a vivid contrast between a reluctant, dishonest judge and our loving, all-merciful Father. If even a bad judge will give a good result in response to a persistent request, how much more (infinitely more) eagerly and perfectly will our good Father respond to our persistent prayers to Him. If he delays in responding, if he provides a different response from the one we were expecting, we can remain confident and trusting in His goodness, knowing that His response, whenever it comes and in whatever form, will be the very best one for us. Our job then, as Christian stewards, is simply to remain faithful to our relationship with God through prayer. We must lean on each other in our communities — family and parish — as we support each other in prayer. A strong pillar of prayer will make all our other stewardship efforts fruitful. © Catholic Stewardship Consultants, 2025 Pastoral Pondering I have noticed for a while now that many folks in the parish, and many Catholics in general, seem to have an erroneous or at least a confused understanding of the “Sunday obligation.” The obligation to attend Mass on Sundays and holy days is rooted in our fundamental obligation to worship God and keep the Lord’s Day holy. In light of this, I thought it opportune to present a summary of the Church’s teaching in this regard. I hope you find it helpful. Catholics are obligated to attend Mass on Sundays and Holy Days of Obligation primarily because it is a precept of the Church, rooted in both divine law and ecclesiastical authority. This obligation stems from the Third Commandment (“Remember to keep holy the Lord’s Day”), which in Christian tradition applies to Sunday as the day commemorating Christ’s Resurrection, marking it as a day of worship, rest, and renewal. The Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC) explains this in detail, particularly in sections on the precepts of the Church and the Third Commandment. Biblical and Theological Foundations The obligation draws from Scripture, where God commands the sanctification of the Sabbath (Exodus 20:8-11; Deuteronomy 5:12-15). For Christians, this shifts to Sunday—the “Lord’s Day”—to honor Jesus’ Resurrection on the first day of the week (Acts 20:7; Revelation 1:10). The Eucharist is seen as the “source and summit” of the Christian life (CCC 1324), making participation essential for spiritual nourishment, community unity, and fulfilling one’s relationship with God. As CCC 2180 states, the faithful are bound to participate in Mass on these days to sanctify them through worship. Holy Days of Obligation are additional feasts (such as Christmas, Assumption of Mary, or All Saints’ Day, varying by region) that the Church designates as equally important for similar reasons—honoring key mysteries of faith, the Virgin Mary, or saints—requiring the same level of observance. Church Law and Precepts This is formalized as the first precept of the Church: “You shall attend Mass on Sundays and on holy days of obligation and rest from servile labor” (CCC 2042). It requires active participation in the Eucharistic celebration and abstaining from work that hinders sanctification or rest. Canon Law reinforces this: “On Sundays and other holy days of obligation, the faithful are obliged to participate in the Mass” (Canon 1247). The Sunday Eucharist is described as the “foundation and confirmation of all Christian practice,” making attendance obligatory unless excused by serious reasons like illness, infant care, or a dispensation from a pastor (CCC 2181). Deliberately missing without such cause is considered a grave (mortal) sin. Practical and Spiritual Reasons Attending Mass orients believers toward God at the start of the week, fosters community, and provides grace through the sacraments. It’s not just a rule but an opportunity for encounter with Christ. The Church emphasizes this as the highest form of worship, essential even during travel or vacations, underscoring its priority in Catholic life. This obligation applies to all Catholics who have reached the age of reason (around 7 years old) and are physically able, with exceptions for valid impediments. Parents have a very important obligation to assist their children to fulfill this obligation. In general, children under the age of 16 cannot get to Mass without the assistance of the adults in their lives. Hence, the culpability for missing Mass usually falls to those adults rather than the children.  In the end fulfilling the “Sunday obligation” is more about loving God than anything else. Do we love Him enough to give Him at least an hour on Sundays and holy days? It would seem this is the least we can do in offering this act of love to the One who loved us first.